Everybody humor me for a second while I cogitate on ~metafashion~; that's a term I just came up with for issues of fashion that aren't about any specific piece or designer, per say, but about more abstract concepts of style.
Something that every woman has heard, though I suspect plus-size women with much more frequency and vigor, is that fashion is all about flattery. Wearing shapes, colors, and prints that "flatter your figure". Of course, most of us know that this is just a euphemism for "make you look as thin as possible."
This is a tricky one, isn't it? Especially because if you love to consume fashion information, like me, you inevitably become obsessed with fit and how tiny details of your clothing alters the way it looks on you. The next step is of course to make those same judgements about other people. I'm totally guilty; ask any of my friends or family and they will tell you I am savage. What gives? What gives me the right to blog largely in the context of the body-positivity plus-size movement while simultaneously analyzing the fashion choices of every woman I see?
Hear me out. I'm totally with you that the whole, only wear black and slimming cuts blah blah blah. Nonsense. BUT, there are two instances where I feel justified in my judge-y, "Oi that is truly unflattering" thoughts...
1. Women who look like they are trying to opt out of dressing themselves. I know everyone has leggings and sweatpants days, me very much included. I feel like I have a pretty good read on that and women who are using pajama pants as trousers. Maybe I'm old fashioned in my belief that for adult women, the latter is not ok.
2. I see a lot of women dressed in what, to me, are outfits where they sacrifice their own comfort and confidence for something trendy and it doesn't land. This just bums me out, especially when it plagues my plus-size homies. It sucks that girls my size feel like their only style options are the ill-fitting versions of whatever bone fast fashion throws them.
I don't think that a woman's fashion objective is to look as thin as possible. It's great to see a woman of any size wearing something that makes her feel so powerful, the confidence oozes from her. That's what's flattering. What do you guys think? Tell me! Shout at me!
P.S. Before anyone gets too upset with me (although, feel free; I welcome that), know that I have a whole other set of judgements for the guys, don't worry about that!